This is an excerpt from Kirby’s new book Fan of Happy. For more information or to purchase the book click here. Kirby Hasseman is the CEO of Hasseman Marketing & Communications, a full service marketing company and promotional products distributor. Hasseman Marketing has 4 full-time internal employees and 6 sales people. You can learn more about Kirby at his website KirbyHasseman.com.
Whenever you find yourself stressed, worried and afraid, it’s likely you are NOT living in the IS. What do I mean? Let me explain.
Living in the WAS: Have you ever heard someone that bemoans the fact that things are changing? They tell you all the time how good things “used to be.” They wish things would just go back to the “good old days.”
These people are living in the WAS.
This glorification of the past makes me sad for these folks. As Billy Joel said, “The good old days weren’t always good and tomorrow ain’t as bad as it seems!” Living in the WAS creates frustration and anger. You can’t turn back time, so don’t try.
Living in the WILL BE: The other source of stress and anxiety comes from worrying about the “WILL BE.” Don’t get me wrong, you need to have a vision and a goal for the future, but you need to set that course and go. Too many times we spend all of our times worrying about the future and we forget to live in the now.
Live in the IS: Living in the IS creates an urgency to be purposeful with every moment. You only get this moment—yes this one—one time. What are you doing to make the most of it? Are you making memories? Are you creating relationships? Are you working toward your goals?
In addition, Living in the IS gives you a great sense of perspective of the real world. You can see things for real—not as they were or will be—but where they are. And THAT perspective is the best garden to grow the future from.
The past is in the past. Leave it there. The future will come, but it’s not here yet. The present is now. Make the most of it.